Narcissitic pastors

Why is it ok for a pastor to disrespect you or others and it is no big deal but if you do it to him  he makes it a big deal calls a meeting with other pastors and read you the riot act. Why would a person think it is ok to be late nor care that they are when there is no reason to be. Isn't that being disrespectful, probably not if that person is a narcissist. Does a narcissist see things as good saying things like " the Spirit is moving" "I feel His presensce" when  actually no such thing happened it was just a normal every day service. Is one narcissistic when every time they talk it is I did such and such, when I was ministering in.... God really moved etc.  "God told me your spiritual condition is wrong" and they always look for/talk about others sins but you never hear them mention any of theirs'. Boy it must be hard to have a narcissitic personality and being perfect. Remenber any moment now Christ will return are you ready.